462: Stop Lying to Yourself! Kevin Boehm on Why Life Happens For Us, Not To Us, Destroying the Self-Help Blueprint, When Fear Looks Like Wisdom, and Why Food Is a Peacemaker

This week on Win Today, esteemed restaurateur Kevin Boehm joins me to name the subtle drift from hope to heaviness: how fear hides under the guise of practicality, how the self‑help blueprint promises control but delivers unease, and why your plate of food may be less incidental than you think—it could be a peacemaker for your soul. We dismantle the lie that you must always surge forward; sometimes the bravest step is backward. We expose what happens when you stop lying to yourself and start living honestly. If you’ve ever felt stuck in performance, disguised your fear as “logic,” or missed the meaning beneath the menu, this conversation will unsettle and re‑anchor you.

You’ll learn:

• Why life doesn’t happen to you. It happens for you.
• How fear masquerades as practicality and keeps you playing safe
• Why the self‑help blueprint often becomes a pride trap
• What it takes to stop lying to yourself and begin honest discipleship
• How food (yes, food) can function as a peacemaker in your spiritual ecosystem

Guest Bio

Kevin Boehm is a restaurateur, author, and speaker whose work spans hospitality, culture, and the gospel of presence. As co‑founder of BOKA Restaurant Group and author of The Bottomless Cup, he has navigated the collision of excellence, exhaustion, fear, and hope, discovering that what feeds the body often reveals what starves the soul. Kevin’s voice challenges the self‑help aesthetic and invites you into the broader story where life is for you, not to you.

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Resources Mentioned This Week

• The Bottomless Cup: A Memoir of Secrets, Restaurants, and Forgiveness
• Healing What You Can’t Erase: Transform Your Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual Health from the Inside Out

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