129: Dave & Ann Wilson on Effective Conflict, Red-Hot Romance, and Pursuit After “I Do”

Last week, authors of the best-selling book, “Vertical Marriage,” Dave and Ann Wilson joined me for part one of this two-part series all about how to build a marriage that lasts—how to build a vertical marriage. Their mission is to share a secret with people that will completely revolutionize both their personal life and their marriage. In fact, one of the takeaway statements they made last week was this: “The issue isn’t that you married the wrong person. The issue is that you’re looking in the wrong place for fulfillment.” And conflict is exactly where we’re picking-up the conversation today.

Dave and Ann didn’t always handle conflict effectively, especially early-on in their marriage. But as they matured as a couple, things began to change in a great way. That’s why, today, you’re going to hear their strategies for healthy conflict through the lens of their own life experience. We’re also going to dive into why a woman must be pursued, even after “I do” and men…how to do just that. We’ll also discuss why too many couples love each other but miss actually knowing each other. And then…we’re talking all about how to pour rocket fuel on your romance and how to plan a hot date night. Buckle-up, friends.

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He never saw it coming. It was the night of Dave and Ann’s tenth wedding anniversary and if asked how their marriage was doing, Dave would have said a 9.8 out of 10 and he even guaranteed Ann would say the same. But instead of giving a celebratory kiss, Ann whispered, “I’ve lost my feelings for you.” Divorce seemed inevitable. But starting that night, God began to reveal to Dave and Ann the most overlooked secret of getting the marriage we are looking for: the horizontal marriage relationship just doesn’t work until the vertical relationship with Christ is first. As founders of a multi-campus church and marriage coaches with 30 years of experience, Dave and Ann share the hard-earned but easy-to-apply biblical principles that ensure a strong marriage. Written in a funny and highly relatable dialogue between both husband and wife, Vertical Marriage will guide you toward building a vibrant relationship at every level including communication, conflict, intimacy, and romance—though Dave is still figuring that last one out. Through their unique perspectives, they share an intimate, sometimes hilarious and at times deeply poignant narrative of one couple’s journey to reconnecting with God and discovering the joy and power of a vertical marriage. For anyone who is married, preparing for marriage, or desperate to save a relationship teetering on the edge of disaster, Dave and Ann offer hope and strategies that really work. Vertical Marriage will give you the insight, applications, and inspiration to reconnect with God together and to transform your marriage to everything you hoped it would be. Buy Vertical Marriage: The One Secret That Will Change Your Marriage now.

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